Self Image and Harrassment

Not that long ago, I made a post about sex and advertising, and how these things can really affect women negatively. I will always tell the women and men in my life to have confidence in themselves and to know that they're beautiful, because it's true. As everyone knows, that's not always easy to keep in mind.

Over a year ago, I was having some problems with a girl I knew who refused to do anything for herself (including getting a job) well into age 23. She'd never been employed before, and was receiving all of her money from her mom. That's all fine and good if you have a parent willing to support you well into your twenties, but remaining completely dependent, to me, is a bad thing. I had to have a job as soon as I was old enough, and it wasn't because my folks made me do it, but because I didn't want to be a burden on my mom (folks are divorced). When I turned 20, I moved out so that I wouldn't strain her resources. This is where a large part of the disagreement stemmed from, but the other part of it was this girl (I say girl because she's the only person I know who acts as old as she looks, which is to say 14) was telling a large number of people lies about me, and I'm not the hypocrite most people are when I say that when I have a problem with someone, I go talk to them about it. She didn't like being called out on it, and she didn't like that I wanted an apology, since she was clearly faultless and could do no wrong whatsoever.

Now, I was on Facebook's 'Social Profile' application(s). Shortly after our falling out, I suddenly had a lot of anonymous posts on my social profile. Most of them were votes against me for just about everything, but some of them had one-word messages attached to them. "ugly" and "fat" (the perpetrator didn't use capitalization) were prevalent throughout anything attached to appearance. Everything else simply didn't have an explanation. All of them were from the same IP Address, and dates were logged between my first contact with this girl about the problems I had with her until the point of my removing her from my friends list and then blocking her completely. Gee, I wonder who could have POSSIBLY been responsible for those.

Not only that, but there were various messages sent to me insulting my appearance, my intelligence, etc;, all sent from the same person.

I don't take kindly to harassment; I never will. Sure enough, the IP Address belonged to her computer at the time, and the account used was hers. I currently have the beginnings of a harassment case built up on screen caps and the various correspondences she's sent me, and should this behavior continue, she has been more or less warned that I will be filing the case with the police. They're already aware of it, but agree that I should have more before filing officially.

I bring this all up because today I went onto Facebook and was going to see if removing the application and rejoining would erase my previous account with them. Nope. I ended up reading every single letter of those insults again even just by scrolling through to see if they were gone. So, now I feel incredibly self-conscious, which is what she wants, which just pisses me off even more. On the plus side, I have my life together, and she doesn't. I'm in school (Dean's List 5/5 semesters so far), and she's a drop out. I'm self-sufficient (most of the time), and she's still suckling on her momma's teat.

At the end of the day, no matter how I feel about myself physically, I just need to remember those kinds of things. Venting here helps a lot.